BITCH SAUCE FOR THE GANDER

        We have always been against using words that defame and disrespect women even though there are those who argue that by using them we limit their power to hurt.

        Recent events have caused us to change our minds, but only conditionally. It's really not the word that rankles but its selectivity. In a democracy, that is discriminatory and should be forbidden.

        The word bitch is thought to start out some many years ago as a name for animal mothers such as the female dog (biccha) and from there was applied to females of other species. When applied to women, it was derogatory, indicating a lewd woman.

        It also meant "to botch, bungle or spoil and to grumble or find fault." These uses have stayed fairly constant over time. What has been lost or just ignored is that "bitch" was also applied to men.

        ·1500 E.E. Misc. (1855) 54
        He is a schrewed byche, In fayth, I trow, he be a wyche.
        ·1749 Fielding Tom Jones xvii. iii,
        Landlord is a vast comical bitch.
        ·1893 Stevenson Catriona xi. 123
        Ay, Davie, ye're a queer character..a queer bitch after a', and I have no mind of meeting with the like of ye.
        ·
        1916 Joyce Portrait of Artist v. 203
        Is your lazy bitch of a brother gone yet?

        http://www.roxanne.org/~maeve/bitch.html

        Bitch is a word that is used to demoralize and intimidate many women. They are called this when they try to assert themselves in the workplace or in the home. Overall, it has been a controlling word.

        None the less, some women have internalized the appellation and redefined it to show their strength and power:

        "You want a bitch? You want a bitch? You can't handle a bitch!"

        "I am Biker Bitch of Borg. Kiss my assimilator!"

        The solution to the pejorative nature of the word, "bitch," is for women to quit making it gender specific and REINTRODUCE the use of the word to describe men too. As the saying goes, "What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander."

        There are different kinds and degree of bitches and bitchery. We use the pairing of female and male bitches to demonstrate that the appellation is not gender specific and illustrate how men, as well as women, are bitches.

        We present some well known, and should be known, bitches. You will think of many more and hopefully will incorporate the word, where it applies, into your own descriptions of males, as well as females. James Traficant and Ann Coulter: loud mouthed, foul-mouthed bitches. Both lie consistently and what they can't prove, they make up without a care for any harm they may inflict on others. They are consumed with hatred.

          Phyllis Schlafly and Dubya Bush: compassionate Christian conservatives to a fault -- the fault being that compassion is only found in their bitch-words not in their bitch-hearts.

          Don Rumsfeld and Mona Charen: these two take their authority straight from god and with bitchiness above and beyond, inflict their opinions on the world.

          Hillary Clinton and Paul Begala: two people who are bitchy in more ways than you can imagine. They are facile in speech and unbeatable in an argument. Despite being put down repeatedly they just bounce back and this annoys the hell out of some people.

          Ari Fleischer and Mary Matalin: demonstrate constantly their bitchy ability to smoothly spin the message without turning a hair. They are remarkably proficient in their defense of pure bullshit.

          Rose Pullen and Bill Pullen: absolutely bitchin' really describes these two. Bill, because, unlike so many fathers, he allowed and encouraged his daughter, Rose, to become all that she could be -- a competent and courageous human being. Rose, because she took advantage of her opportunities to define herself.

        Waterville, Maine
        Fifteen-year-old Rose Pullen operated a winch and boom on a wrecker to free her father Bill who was trapped under a car. Then she ran to the family station wagon and drove him to where he could receive medical attention.

        There's a little of the bitch in everyone. The trick is not to be ashamed of it but train it to work to women's advantage and the "Greater Good."

        twanda@gendergappers.org       

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        Copyright 2002 Renee T. Louise and Ruth M. Sprague, Ph.D. These articles may be republished for noncommercial use only, provided that they are copied intact, and that this copyright notice is attached. Address all queries to: twanda@twanda.org.

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